The If Only Syndrome

Empty cup
Are you trying to fill your life with the "If Only Syndrome" or are you filling your life with a relationship with Christ?

The If Only Syndrome is something we all have experienced. Some of us have conquered this syndrome, some of us know the answer of how to overcome the syndrome and others live with this syndrome all their lives. What is the If Only Syndrome? Below are a list of this syndrome’s symptoms:

If only I had a nicer car, then I would be happy.

I got the nicer car but if only I had a bigger house then I would be happy.

Ok, I got the house but if only I could take that dream paradise vacation, then I could be happy.

If only I had or I could…..(you fill in the blank) then life would be complete.

Do these symptoms sound familiar? Have you personally experienced this syndrome? Or , are you currently experiencing this If Only Syndrome? Have you ever wondered why that once you take care of one of the symptoms of this syndrome that the void in life is still there?

Our society,* advertising (sorry, Drew), media among other things are brought into our home day end and day out telling us that obtaining a certain product will make us happy, or will make life easier. When all is said and done, the If Only Syndrome has us spinning our wheels just like a hamster on its wheel. We keep spinning trying to fill that void but yet we get no where with our contentment.

How to we conquer this syndrome? We conquer by presenting ourselves to God and asking His precious son, Jesus Christ to come into our lives. Maybe you have done just that but still feel a void at times. The key is not only ask Christ into your life but to be on a day-to-day relationship with Him. Each day, it requires us to be focused on His word, be aware of priorities of what is truly important and what is not important. Sometimes, we have to change the way we look at the world and allow the world into our homes.

In the first twelve chapters in Romans 8, Paul reminds us that we came into the world with nothing and we leave the world with nothing. In other words, materialism really has no meaning. Materialism can take our focus off our relationship with Christ.  Not only can the If Only Syndrome take our focus off of Christ but it can bind us up into situations such as debt, being overworked, health issues and the list can go on. When God created us, He did not create us to be bound up by the ways of the world. But, He created us to enjoy and be thankful for the blessings He gives us each day. God wants us in relationship with Him. He does not want us in a relationship with our homes, cars and other material items. After all, can our cars, homes and such heal a broken heart? Also, can the If Only Syndrome be reliable?

Today, is there an emptiness in your heart? Do you feel that you are bound and need to be made free?  Present yourself to God with your emptiness and allow Him to fill your cup and heal your If Only Syndrome. Once you do this, you will be amazed at how you view the world and how your priorities will simplify and change.

“There is therefore now no condemnation to those who are in Christ Jesus, who do not walk according to the flesh, but according to the Spirit.”

Romans 8:1



(I encourage you to read the first twelve chapters of Romans 8 as you go through your week)

*My son, Drew is in the advertising business.


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